I have been worried about my 'rose' a.k.a. Popples for quite some time. He has been moody, mildly aggressive and binging on food. After having rule out all physical probabilities it all seems to stem from deep seated emotional issues that he is unable to voice. His counsellor feels that it is time to tell him his story.
Call it serendipity at work but one of the home tasks he has to do for his holiday homework is to make a family tree in French! This may tune out to be the ideal situation to address all the issues that seem to be tormenting him and forcing him to resort to damaging coping strategies.
So in a few hours I will sit with him and we will work on his very special family tree. I think I will adopt Socrates's Maieutic method. I will try and have him come up with questions and answer them truthfully.
The challenge is to keep a balance between what he has lost and what he has gained, hoping that the scales will tilt in favour of the gains.
He needs tone told that he is safe, and loved and will always be so.
We will make a family tree that will be very special as most of the relationships will be based on choices and labelled by him. We will break many social norms, but who cares. What matters is that the tree will have strong roots and that every branch and leaf that stem out of it will be steeped in love.